keeping up

Well, now child #2 has succumbed to chicken pox. Once again, we are locked into our apartment for fear of contaminating others. I hope it passes more quickly this time around.
I got to play all of Madeleine's princess games, and I got to read a bunch of books aloud, and I got to see several of Conrad's feel-good movies. Not a bad deal, really, but our larder is starting to look a little empty and I don't know when we'll be able to go shopping.
Maybe I'll just tape up all the pustules or whatever they're called and take the kids to the grocery store.
Stay away from Associated tomorrow before noon, if you don't want to get contaminated.

cars

Went to get groceries.

Overheard this.
He: And on my side it's 11am to 1pm, but then on Union [Street] it's 11am to...
She: has tuned out long ago.
[For my European readers: he was talking about parking restrictions in the neighborhood, street cleaning and whatnot.] Here's the sad part. Both of these people are out of my league, looks-wise. (I'm a minor league player who likes to believe he may have gone far if he'd only worked out more and if his metabolism had cooperated better with all the chocolate he consumed.) Does this mean that, in order to have improved my chances (before I hit the jackpot with Julie, of course), I should have had inane, selfish conversational topics? Or should I just be happy that they are stuck in a conversational quagmire?

Then I saw this.
A woman was getting out of a recently parked car. The door wouldn't open far because there was a tree right there. So she had to extract herself by squeezing and contorting most inelegantly. The guy (her guy, I assume) was watching, rather than getting in again to back the car up. There was plenty of space. Again, these people were generally better-looking than I, and they have a car (which I don't). Do I need to be more of a jerk to advance in both directions?

Finally, I saw a Prius, parked. And it had vanity plates. Funny enough in itself, right?
The license plates read: AUTEUR. Jeez.
But, you know what? If I ever have a car, I think I'll get vanity plates and prepose an H. At least it would be honest.

Pole-dancing (of sorts), the prequel

When we moved (back) to San Francisco in 2004, I went to the SFMOMA with the kids. Madge was around 4, Coco around 1. I figured, what the heck, brightly colored pictures are always good, and, if I’m lucky, I’ll be able to sneak in some Surrealist and Dadaist things.
No such luck.
Madge found everything boring, except for the overly representational stuff, a photography exhibit of “Sex Workers in Asia.”
The area was roped off and I was trying to usher her past it when she said, “Oh, she’s pretty. I want to see.” Followed by, “Why is she naked in the tub?” Followed by, “Why is the man staring at her?”
So I told her about the male gaze and objectification of women and post-colonialism and fetish of the Oriental in “modern” art and of the museum’s need to attract visitors with prurience while still maintaining an image of ultra-hipness and about how Modern Art isn’t really “modern” or “art” most of the time, but the stuff from the early 1900’s is still fun because it’s experimental in a fun way and how art is aimed at museums mostly and for some reason photography is the only thing contemporaries really enjoy and…
In other words, my tried and true method of bombarding her with so much “truth” that she tunes out.
It still worked when she was four.
Now she hears, “Blah blah blah blah blah sex blah blah blah men blah women blah blah blah blah blah blah.”
Then she’ll ask, “So why is the woman naked and not the man?” And I’ll say, “Hey, do you want to check out the gift shop?”
And we’ll be just fine until she finds the cute Warhol-condoms or whatever.

Obituary

The head of Brooklyn’s caterpillar-toddler relations succumbed after a brief encounter with soapy water.*
“Julie,” so named because of the strong, immediate emotional bond, was of an unknown age, possibly 2 days, judging by her initial fuzziness. She was a friend to all and shone with a bright, personable nature.
She asked to be set adrift in the toilet bowl.

*There is, of course, an irony in this. Greek tragedy-type irony. Madeleine feared that Conrad was too rough with “Julie,” so she emptied a cup of its home-made soap-bubble mixture and made Coco put the caterpillar in it. But the cup wasn’t rinsed and the remaining soap was too much for “Julie” (I’m guessing: could it have dried her out?) who curled up and stopped moving, laying there with her 12 or so legs in the air and a couple of tiny bubbles on her “waist.”

elevator, part 2

Should I feel guilty? I just posted the previous thing and now I'm hearing the elevator bell ringing. I.e., someone got stuck on it. I don't even know who to call. Eek.

elevator

There was a sign by out elevator this morning that read,
“Be Careful, someone got stuck in this elevator tonight (Thursday).”
[It sounds like the “Careful, Falling Rocks” road sign. If you’re not in an open convertible and happen to have the hardtop in your trunk, what exactly are you going to do? Are falling rocks best avoided by going too fast or by driving slowly with your head out the window, ready to swerve off the road - and off the cliff - when the precipitation of rocks commences?]
The sign is on the ground floor. There is only one elevator. We saw the sign on the way out. But, for the way back in, I was prepared.
When we came home, the kids and I went up the stairs to use the bathroom, just in case. When we came down again, the kids were hungry, so I went back up to make some sandwiches and get some drinks. On my way down, I thought, to be safe, let’s also bring some empty bottles in case we have to go potty again. Then I figured, maybe the toolbox would be a good idea. Then I came back to leave a message with Julie at her work to be alert and, if she didn’t hear back from us in five minutes, to call the elevator people. (My cell phone doesn’t work in the elevator, and the call service in the elevator isn’t as reliable as it ought to be.) Then I lit some incense and votive candles, prayed to the orixas and decided to brave it.
Our carefulness paid off. The elevator ride went off without a hitch.

Gift idea

For the "Wait, Wait... Don't Tell Me!" fans out there (or just for anyone with a fond memory of silly trivia), get the desk calendar people will be talking about for, for, eh, a while.
Let a know-it-all feel more knowy, a boss feel more bossy, and, hey, tell them you know the limerick guy.

Coco's new best friend

(Bring up music, jazz combo, light comping, cue Nat "King" Cole, singing: "This can't be lahve because I feel so well. No sobs, no sorrows, no sighs")

Coco: Daddy, I fink de caterpillar's a she.

("This can't be lahve, I get no dizzy spell each time I look into your eyes.")

Daddy: Really, what's her name?

("My heart does not stand still, why does it beat? This is too sweet to be lahve.")

Coco: Umm, Julie.

("This can't be lahve because I feel so well. But still I lahve to look in your eyes." Fade)

Lest you think this is all too saccharine, let me point out that when we found "Julie" she had much more fuzz.

Also, let's not tell Dr. Freud about this, shall we?

Compromise Movie

Overheard by yours truly.
Husband to wife at playground: "What movie are we going to see?"
Wife: "The Devil Wears Prada"
The husband's face falls.
(I, of course, am thinking, "Wait, on a Wednesday night they can go see a movie? Who's watching the kid? What's going on? How can I fit into their evening plans?")
(Coco, meanwhile, if you're interested, is face-down in a puddle while Madge is driving a tricycle right at him.)

Here's what needs to happen. They need to see "The Devil Wears Prada in the Caribbean." It can't be that far removed from either movie. I've seen parts of the Dead Man's Chest thingie, and, really, Davy Jones could accessorize some more. Not to mention that a Devil wearing Prada would not be any more far-fetched than the actual plot elements. And the other movie could probably use Johnny Depp. Listening to certain women, it appears that everyone could use some Johnny Depp. I'm not disagreeing.

Sequitur

You decide whether it's non- or not.
I asked the kids, "What do you want for dinner?"
And Coco answers, "A toy."

Pool-side entertainment

At the pool today, a Parks Security guy (Hispanic, height- and posture-challenged, “gifted”-looking), armed with a green t-shirt and a gentle, slightly confused smile, asked a woman (African-American) if she was with the camp. (A section of the pool is blocked off for camps.) She said, “No,” so he asked to look inside her bag, at which point she got indignant, as only… (I’ll stop here lest I come off as sexist or something, but I think you know what I mean. Maybe not “only” but “especially.”)
“So if I had said I was with the camp, you wouldn’t check my bag?”
He stayed calm (though he still looked confused) and asked her to open the bag for him.
She opened it and, as he was about to look inside, shoved it less than an inch from his face, took it back down, and walked off.
He hesitated for maybe a second, then followed her and escorted her off the premises.
The look on her face was priceless.
I don’t know if there’s a point to this, but the scene stuck with me. Mostly because the characters seemed so mismatched (the odds would have been 7-5 in her favor).

Subway entertainment

Some things are more embarrassing than they need be.
Subway rides, for example. With children.
Today I wanted to go to Manhattan on the Subway, but Coco didn’t. Madge toughed it out. But every time the train pulled into a station, Coco struggled to break free and kept shouting – and I mean shouting – “No more transion! No more transion!” (Transion, I believe, is a conjunction of transfer and station, which, I guess, most accurately reflects his feelings about the matter.)
By the time we got to our desired stop I was a sweaty mess.
But the situation is still understandable, something everyone can read as painful, but somehow necessary. A toddler balking. And it’s not like walking or taking a bus or cab would be any more helpful once you’re already on the train.
No, what truly gets to me is when the train is empty enough for the poles to be unoccupied and therefore irresistible, but not so empty that there is no audience for Madge’s dance. Head back so the hair swings free, back arched, legs - oh, I can’t get into it. It’s an innocent thing, of course, but...
Here, you try finishing this exchange:
“Stop twirling around the pole, please.”
“Why?”
Hm? What do you say that will be satisfactory and not just authoritarian bull that doesn’t fly anyway.
And trust me, I have said, “Would you take ‘because I said so’?” It doesn’t work.
Good luck on solving the puzzle.

Attorney at -

Lawyers' offices say attorney-at-law.
This means that one could be an attorney at something else, or the whole thing would be redundant, and lawyers would never do that, would they?
Language-wise, "attorney" means something like "someone to whom powers have been turned over." If you leave out the "in a legal sense" which has overgrown the concept (like a strangler vine), you could have other attorneys.
For example, twice a week an attorney-at-refuse comes by to pick up our trash.
Our local Thai place is our attorney-at-dinner-preparation.
Until the kids were potty-trained (sorry, toilet-learned), I was an attorney-at-excreta.
A pilot is an attorney-at-flight. As is a sufficiently bribed bail-bondsman.
The fun never ends.
But I do.
Good night.
Oh, one more: attorney-and-cheese on rye, hold the pickle.

Eyes front, young man

I know I’m not ready for bikini season. Now it turns out I’m not ready for t-shirt season, either.
See, I thought I had myself weaned from staring at women’s, you know. (I was aided by contemporary fashion which exposes so many other choice bits that I get so confused I give up and look into their faces.)
But now there seems to be a trend (at least in our neighborhood) of t-shirts with writing on them. And women’s t-shirts tend to have writing, you know. Often I don’t get to finish because the writing won’t hold still. Sometimes it wraps around and I feel I ought to lift intruding pieces out of the way. But that might not be polite.
So today I wound up staring at an Asian lady (Chinese-ish Asian, not Indonesian-ish Asian), older. Maybe 45, so not “older” older but too old for what she was wearing, namely a green t-shirt that said, “Tennis Players have fuzzy balls.”
She must have been deep in her laundry cycle, past the outmoded fancy clothes.

Sometimes Karma is immediate

The scene:

Blue Ribbon Sushi

The crime:

Daddy blathers on about how Udon noodles aren’t snakes and that straws are for sucking not blowing and fingers shouldn’t be put in drinks and subsequently in noses and the candle is lit for a purpose other than blowing it out and please use your napkin not your shirt and keep your dirty hands off the window and and and

The punishment:

The avocado is to fall out of daddy’s sushi just as it is passing over his recently poured green tea

Luckily I got paroled because I managed to laugh about it.

Not for the faint-hearted

A little before and after.
Note, in the "after" picture, that there is a toilet brush hanging in our shower. Lest you think we have odd grooming habits, let me explain that we had to prematurely retire our previous toilet brush because Coco thinks they are nifty toys.
And, really, it's a much better loufa than the purple thingie we have.
It also helps in reaching those impacted wisdom teeth.
But don't tell Julie.

Tooth fairy identity

The day before her seventh birthday, Madeleine lost her first top tooth, one of the thibilanth. Now there’s a big gap in the top and she has the cutetht lithp.
Before going to bed (she was obviously excited about the upcoming bonanza, so the whole thing was an extended ordeal), we had the following conversation (among many go-to-sleep-I-can’t-I’m-too-excited exchanges).
M: Daddy, do you think the tooth fairy is a boy or a girl?
D: I don’t know. I haven’t really thought about it much. What do you think?
M: I think it’s a girl.
D: You’re probably right.
[several minutes pass]
M: Daddy?
D: Yes?
M: I think the tooth fairy might be mommy. She’s always tired in the morning.
D [trying to hide panic]: No, I don’t think so. I think I’d notice.
[pause]
D: Wait, you mean that mommy is the tooth fairy for everyone in the whole world, don’t you?
M: Yes.
D: No, I think I would notice.
M: But maybe she puts pixie dust on you to make sure you don’t wake up.
D: Hm. Maybe.
[whew]
Of course I told Julie about this (and had to clarify that Madeleine means she’s tired on weekends, because she doesn’t see how quickly Julie flies out of bed on weekday mornings, etc.). And apparently Madeleine had suggested to her that the tooth fairy is Mrs. Santa Claus, since she obviously knows where everyone is.

Heat in the summer is news, apparently

I know this is cruel, but when we lived in Chicago, we used to “measure” how hot a day was by how many Dead Old People were reported in the news. There have been a few hot days here this week, but I’m not aware of a Brooklyn D.O.P. Index. Maybe the news doesn’t report that kind of thing around here, or maybe the city is more organized in that respect (though I doubt it). It’s most likely that the size of the place minimizes any statistical spike. Perhaps there’s a S.I.P. (Stabbings In the Park) Index instead.
I don’t know.

Come-ons

Walked by a bunch of magazine racks today.
One of them said:

Free
Writing Classes
Begin this Week

I'm guessing the first class is on how to use line breaks to write misleading ads.

The community pool

Went swimming today, at a pool between DeGraw and Douglass streets. It calls itself the “Double D” pool.
If I may channel my nightclub alter ego, Allan Allen, for a moment,
I believe they have a yearly swim meet to compete for the “Double D” cup.
And you’re only allowed to do the breast stroke.